Learn English meaning of manners

Don’t worry about him he’s going to change 

Oh, poor dear Julito!!! 

Dear Shoba,  interesting to know how your Dad  found a way (bribery) to keep  his  ”broncos” calm.    My Dad used a more drastic method. ” boys, if you don´t behave ,when we got back home , I will kick your butt as many times that you won`t be able to seat for several days.    yeeees dady.  

Having good manners is really important. If person makes others feel uncomfortable, no one just will talk to him/her again. Also for person with bad behavior it’s hard to make any friends.

Having good manners makes people take a shine to us instantly and helps to build up a more humane and pacific society. 

On the other hand, being impolite is a great weapon for the teenagers to bully their parents into giving in to their demands. When we were young my father was so scared that we might disgrace him in public that he gave us handsome pocket money to be polite when we attended special occasions!

Of course i’s so important to have good manners. And Marni is right, the best way of teaching good manners is to be a role model. Doesn’t matter what you say or how you say unless you act like you talk. You can try to teach your kids or students that smoking is an awful habit and rally harmful but if you smoke then you words are just wasted.

There is a real story about that. A teacher decides to visit one of his students’ patents to discuss his lying habit. He arrives parents’ house, they welcome him. He is just about to talk but the phone rings and the student’s mother answers the phone but then turns to her husband and says “It’s for you!” He says ” Tell him I am not home!!” The teacher doesn’t say anything anymore because he knows the reason behind his student’s lying habit.

I think so, yes. Although the term “manner” is so relative, I believe one should have the sufficient manners to hold on in society. After that, it’s up to the person’s benefits to have better or worse manners. So as long as you’re pleased with yourself, don’t overthink about this matter unncessarily.

@julito Like Sheryl explained to me Ps are your Pleases and Qs are your Thank Qs :)

 Hope that helped, dear friend.

if everybody had good manners, the world would be heaven- politeness is very important

Dear Anja, sorry, but what you meant by” Ps  and Qs”  

i think it is a very good idea to have bad manners and make everyone listen to every word you say, no more social graces - good idea

Yes I think that is  important feature. Because I hvae opinion when someone have a good manners and polite behaviour that someone is immediately more beautifull in your eyes.

Back in the days when I was a babysitter in Chicago there was this specific warning my host mother used to say to her toddler son almost every day. He turned out to be a polite young man, with perfect manners. So yes, I certainly think it’s important “to mind your Ps and Qs”  Always and everywhere… 

well i think sometimes kids are terribly eager to share the best things happened around them with people who are kind in their eyes.They would like sing the new songs that they have learned yesterday.their favorate toy ,new bought cloth,their painting things like that.But usually adult got together and sit to talk each others life,kids are ignored so that they made these impolite behaviors to get attention.

Having good manners is so important in our relationships, Otherwise we will be in isolation and anyone won’t to respect us.

There were and are some people around me who didn’t and don’t have good manner, sometimes we are nervous or we are under stress and we aren’t aware of our bad manner, I think need a close friend, in friendly way, direct or indirect warn us about our bad manner!

Sometimes we need a mirror to know how bad is our manner, so our closest people like our family and friends can be our mirror!

According to my own experience some of these people in this way try to change their manner, some of them not! By the way in my opinion these people need help, if we can, should try to help them in right way!

@Julito, Hi :)

You are right, I go with that psychological explanation that it might be a feeling of inferiority or any other psychological complexities when it comes to adults, and yes, these kind of things happen as a result of an unhealthy surroundings back in the past. And of course mostly these people had social troubles when they were kids.

Maybe, good modeling won’t work for grown ups, I agree on that with you, but for teenagers it might work well. It’s so common among teens to be a little mean and offensive, but they just need to be with the right accompany :) If not, so they need a therapist. 

@ La Princesse.  hello, i totally agree with you. Kids use to do that  when they  don´t get the ” center of attention”  . With growns up , it might be a different story .I am not  a psychologist , but my take on this kind of behaviour could be an inferiority complex ,also, unresolved issues dating back  in time. Whatever the causes are , is a serious matter, and i don´t think that showing them  how to behave is 100% sure that it will help.

I agree with Marni. Actions speak louder than words. If you want to show somebody how to do something in a particular way, you have to be a good model for them with the right manners.

Of course, it’s so important to show good manners towards others, because it’s the basis on which social bridges are built.

I remember a situation. I was visiting my uncle, he has 2 kids, a 5-year-old girl and a 2-year-old boy. The adults were talking with each others while the kids were trying to show off their skills and the new toys and all these stuff, and they got none of the attention, so they began to call loudly interupting the conversations and made a lot of noise. My uncle gave them a stern look, they shrinked a little, but didn’t stop, so I suggested to go play with them in their room, they were happy and we had a lot of fun.. My uncle’s kids are well-mannered, but what happened is that they were trying to be the highlight of the adults’ talk.

I knew before that kids like to pull the attention to them to feel like important, and they like to hear encouraging words like “Bravo!” “Well done!” That really help them to be confident in their lives later. They hate to be ignored, and we shouldn’t do that for their sake.

I think it’s the same here with Gary’s brother, and maybe it’s the same with all kids.