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February 16, 2008

 firstly i would like to tell u a real story.once ago,a couple had lived together for 50 years.although they ofen had some quarrels with each other---maybe it had somethig to do with their different nationalities so that they always had some misunderstanding between them,anyhow,their relationship was still went on.nevertheness,almost at every night,they went to bed with anger.coz none of them was willing to concede to the other.untill one day,the wife wake up and found her hunsband died of heart disease in the morning.the wife cried loudly and regreted leaving the feeling of anger rather than love as the last thing given to her hunsband. .

   as the saying goes,never share quarrel with ur loved one before going to bed.coz no one knows in which moment ur loved one will leave u.don't regret untill there's no chance to pitch up.

   so how to avoid quarrels,there're many ways.of thousands of measures,there's a little but useful tip for good communication.that is speaking in the positive way.

   giving suggestions to ur lover is commonplace.but whether ur partner will accept it in the pleasant way?that's would be a question.hence,we should take some skills in the mutual communication---spread the love message all the time.always progress positively.

    it's better to tell the children,"honey,u..."just say it in a positive way instead of the nagative way that we most ofen do.

   for instance,we say,"don't be so dirty",but we could say,"honey,keep yourself clean." and the word "clean" will go inside the mind instead of the word "dirty."

   it doesn't matter whether u say the "don't" or "do."it's the essence of the sentence,that's important.most people say,"don't be so dirty,""don't be so cruel," or "don't be so nasty,"this,that and the other,instead just say,"be kind,be gentle,be gracious,be graceful,"and then the essence of the words will boil down to "kind,gentle,graceful."and when everything else is gone,only the essence remains.

    change the way u speak to ur loved one right now and treasure the time u spend with them.u can find it will work out very good and everyday will be a nice day.


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08:40 AM Feb 16 2008



thank you for this meaningful lesson.

I think everyone needs this kind of advices and advisors like you

again thank you for sharing with us