Get along with mother-in-law

I've married for 3 years. My mother-in-law came and lived with us before 5 months. I treat her as my own mother from my heart. but we do not often chat,because I could't find any topic we were all intersted in.

Could you give me some advice?

That's must be a common phenomenon. I don' t know how to solve this problem. Maybe time will tell us the results. I  face another problem seems the same as u. I am not married but I live in my boyfriend's home with his parents. I am very careful when at home and treat them parents kindly. I do housework no matter what is it. Besides I never say no or argue with them even they are not right. But I am really tired. I know their parents treat me kindly too. But it's not the problem about this. I have no personal time, and freedom is limited. I can't do what I want . After all it's not my own home. I must obey the rules that they had. So I am thinking about rent a apartment the next year. I must do what I want to realise my dreams.

Friends ,

I felt this is indian people's problem.. now I feel it's universal problem…You parents are always a problem,parents can take care of many children but many children can't take care of their mother & father..

what you said is a truth,i can understand why so many mothers feel bad impression about their duaghters-in-law

what you said is a truth

    i have married for 4 years. and  i  have the same problems with you. i find i almost any topics with my mother-in-law. if my husband goes out for dinner , i often goes out too. because i will feel uncomfortable having dinner with them. so i insists on living outside. separating living will make us more kind .  i think so .

Thanks all. I will apply ur advice to practice.I hope to change this situation in the near future.

I also think separating living is the best way. But I can't do that. because my mother-in-law is getting older, and we should take on supporting her.

nice story nu_pogodi,

weigin li, 

living with in laws are really difficult situation. its uneasy to have a conversation to them specially when they are really old. well, maybe one day if both of you have a spare time try to ask about your wife childhood days…to start conversation with her… 

Yes indeed a very nice story nu_pogodi..have been married also for 22 years and the fact that i was staying before with my in-laws..i never had such problem about their teatment. I respected and loved them as my very own. But i do also noticed that sometimes we just have to be a good listener to them..specially if they are old already.