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polygamy .......for what



Saudi Arabia


I notice there are a lot of argue about Islamic  polygamy


What is the  benefit of this rule


Let me tell you first that I hate polygamy and every Muslim woman hate it . they considere it a cheating just like you   . yet , they don't say why god ?? because they know what god meant of putting this rule .


Cheating is exit every where ? you can not stop this crime . it really painful but impossible to erase  from the world . what did the low of your country do for preventing this ?????


 nothing at all .


fine …..


islam did alot


 think how  it easy    ….. .  Unmuslim man find it easy to cheat his wife . just go to the bar , dance , drunk , findng girl , have sex . soooo simple .      who  can say no . even wife can not  .  




Islamic cheating is so difficult  .  no bars, no drunk , no sex out of marriage . no mix between men and women in the partty or in the public gathering  , and the must important . women can not attract  men by wearing sexy clothes and being hot . all this is forbidden .  


this rules decrease the cheating .


 . in Saudi Aarabia for example  there is less average of cheating , less average of divorce , less average of sex disease and  less average of sex out of marriage .especially .


. so wife in Islamic country are more safe . and family are saved . there is emotional safety Islam only thought about .  


Look what islam did for the seek of wife ……


Did you ever think why islam order women to ware hijab when she go out  ? it is  for the seek of  wifes . to live happily , no worry or fair that another women would take her husband by her beautiful leg or chest .


I am a woman and like to be beautiful when I go out . I know every woman is like me . but for the seek of other women islam order me to hide my beauty . so I most obey . and don’t be selfish by following my desire .


By the way .man can stare at any thing pretty accept woman . looking to the women with lusty is forbidden in islam . there is saying for the prophet mohammed (pbuh) :  (the first sight for you and the second is for the devil )this  means that the second sight is always done when you want to gaze at her  beauty and this  awake your lusty thought . god don't want this thought to araise into the mind . this thought most be sleep .


Don't think man is shy when he look to the ground while speaking to a foreign woman Don't think woman is shy when she look to the ground while speaking to a foreign man . it is the order of god in islam religion .


Ok . Know I will tell you way  polygamy is useful .  


If all these obstacles  did not avoid the thought of cheating in husband mind . islam   make benefit of this bad thing (cheating ) . it is to build new family for the seek of woman surly .  


How interested in making family , woman or man ……………… man only want to have sex , so he will use the mistress and than leave her after month , week or even adays  .


For saving the right of this mistress . and to preventing her from being inferior by the call (mistress) . Islam order man to marry her before  any thing happen between them ..or he wil be ponish and she will also


it is not good for the woman to be mistress , she will be hated by the society for being cheep , she may become pregnant   ,   the cheating man will return to  his family leaving her with a lot of pain and a lot of responsibility . she will be a single mom and live the rest of her life take care of the man dead result,  by her self alone . also the baby that created  from this relationship will hurt  because his father usually don't give him his name . baby lives with out father and this is not good for him .




 polygamy is for the seek of the another woman , and to force  man be  responsible for his lusty and his love for women . he can not run away . it is also an obstacles prevent man from following his desire because he will hesitate in getting  marriage since there is a lot of responsibility follow it . how hard to spend money in two family .


do not think there are a lot of polygamy  among Arabian men . there is a few  . much less than cheaters in you country , be sure , and the single mom is fewer than yours.


what about the old  wife …  ok  ,… the poor wife will be suffering definitely in the two cases . weather he cheating her with marriage or with out marriage since he insist in doing what he want .

but which is better ;


one woman hurt


two woman and child  hurt .think of it .


however ,it is the wife choice . she can stay with him and she can  ask for divorce .




I will answer this question ?


Why woman can not have a polygamy ?


Because this will hurt her children . every husband deny the fatherhood just to avoid the responsibility . islam refuse to hurt the child by being with out dad . it is his right to have a name and to have one father not two or four .  



 god choose to have benefit of this cheating since it can not prevent . which is building up new family . 


12:24 AM Mar 13 2008 |

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Jane Doe

Jane Doe


No Cynthia, the rule was not invented. as far as I know, polygamy happened on the prophet Muhammad's era to protect women/widowed that can't defend themselves back then.

I actually with Pop in this one..the purpose of polygamy on his era and now are way different. in current era I think men take second till fourth wives only for their lust's sake. but we can't blame that kind of men because somehow their brains are on their balls.



01:51 AM Apr 10 2008 |




Monatta – I said sorry coz I though you’d be mad if I’d said something that displeased you about Islam teaching.
In theory maybe polygamy has nothing to argue about since it’s a part of arabian’s culture back then. And culture has been changed a lot since then. So it’s really non sense if polygamy is still applied in the era when women can be on their own.
Besides, maybe a husband can give many things equally to his wives, but not LOVE.

05:38 PM Apr 11 2008 |



He deceives himself through an extraordinary sophistry of Satan’s, and lives. He supposes he receives a superficial pleasure. We shall allude to the true nature of this through a well-known comparison.

It is related that they said to the ostrich: “You’ve got wings, so fly!” But it folded its wings and said: “I’m a camel,” and did not fly. So it fell into the hunter’s trap, and not wanting the hunter to see it, stuck its head in the sand. However, it left its huge body in the open and was the target of the hunter. They later said to it: “Since you say you’re a camel, carry loads.” Whereupon it opened its wings and said: “I’m a bird,” and was saved from the hardship of carrying loads. But having neither protector nor food, it was pursued by the hunters.

In exactly the same way, the unbeliever gave up absolute unbelief in the face of the Qur’an’s heavenly proclamations and descended to scepticism. If he is asked: “You think death is eternal extinction. How can a person live when he perpetually sees before him the gallows on which he is to be hanged? What pleasure can he receive?” Due to the portion he has received from the Qur’an’s universal mercy and all-encompassing light, the man replies: “Death is not extinction; there is a possibility of immortality.” Or else he plunges his head in the sand of heedlessness like the ostrich so that the appointed hour will not spot him and the grave will not watch him and the transience of things will not let fly their arrows at him!

I n S h o r t : When like the ostrich he sees death and decline to be extinction, due to his scepticism, the certain news of the Qur’an and revealed scriptures concerning ‘belief in the Hereafter’ afford him a possibility. The unbeliever clasps onto the possibility and is not subjected to that ghastly pain. If it is then said to him: “Since one will go to an everlasting realm, for a good life there, one has to suffer the difficulties of the religious obligations here,” due to his scepticism, the man says: “Perhaps there is no such world, so why should I work for something that does not exist?” That is to say, because of the possibility of immortality afforded by that decree of the Qur’an, he is saved from the pain of eternal extinction, and because of the possibility of non-existence afforded by scepticism, he is faced with the hardship of religious obligations; he clings onto the possibility of unbelief and is saved from the hardship. That is to say, from this point of view, he supposes he receives more pleasure from this life than the believers, for due to the possibility afforded by unbelief he is saved from the hardship of the religious obligations, and due to the possibility afforded by belief, he does not expose himself to everlasting pains. However, this satanic sophistry is extremely superficial, temporary, and without benefit.

Thus, the All-Wise Qur’an has a sort of manifestation of mercy in respect of the unbelievers also which saves to a degree their lives in this world from being Hell; it induces doubt in them, so they live through doubt. Otherwise they would have suffered the torments of a sort of Hell in this world too, recalling the Hell of the Hereafter, and they would have been compelled to commit suicide.

And so, O people of belief! Fully confident and with belief enter under the protection of the Qur’an, which will save you from eternal extinction and the Hells of this world and the Hereafter. And submissively and appreciatively remain within the bounds of the Practices of the Prophet (PBUH). Then you will be saved from both misery in this world and torment in the Hereafter!


02:07 AM Apr 12 2008 |




Mark – I’m not a moslem. I’m a christian. I’m from Indonesia. I was brought up in surrounding which allowed me to be tolerant.Yes, sometimes there’s an injustice happened for non moslem in Indonesia,but there’s more good moslem people than the bad in Indonesia.
BTW there’s an error occured when the first time I’d registered in Ebaby. So my country’s name still written as Iran. I’ve tried to fix it, but still it didn’t change.
I don’t know why exactly.
And I agree with you about how some(not all) moslems has misinterpretated Islam teaching according to their own benefit.Just like terrorist stuff.

12:07 PM Apr 12 2008 |



Saudi Arabia


mark , this is not hypocracy ,

what happened dear is that some one childish said :

Jane/Kana – Me too! Where are the Muslim extremists? This will be great – Monatta versus his/her co-religionists! Crack out the popcorn, Jane/Kana! I'll get the beer!

soo, no one want to make him happy  , even I .

no need for that




07:10 PM Apr 12 2008 |




May Allah put His mercy upon u Monatta and Burqul  AmenInnocent......

where r u now? u were wise girls….we miss u a lotFrown

01:22 PM Jun 13 2009 |



very good a artivle thks

02:36 PM Jun 13 2009 |