Friends, Marriage has become an essential part of life, because we are not matured enough to live 'total alive' life.I call the relation 'total alive',when man & woman live to gether not without need & security but live together just because of love & sharing, having trust in each other & love.It can be a society where woman is respected as 'source' of human life,where woman need not worry her children , where she need not worry about 'basic necessties of life'. Where mother's name is sufficient, where father is not needed for name sake or for financial source of income. Where woman enjoys her freedom. So , to 'unmatured human' we needed an guard to protect ourself from betraying, so human invented an phenomina called 'marrige'. Marriage is the centre point of our life, around whom our life revolves. The meaning of word marriage shifted to 'relations between man & woman regulated by laws framed by religion & governments, from the relation of love & understanding. If we analise the total life of animals kingdom, we shall find that relations between male & female exists only upto the point of love & after recreation of one circle , both separate & move to another phase of life, hence both lives independent lives.That is that nobody is dstined to live with one, every one got chance to live with many, but after marriage we expect from human to with one partner only, so it is against our basic existential nature hence human has frustrations & mental sicknesses.No other animal has mental sickness or psychlogical problems other than uman, because all animals live the life they are. So, 'successful marriage' has become the aim of our life. but if we try to find the defination of 'successful marriage', we shall be in difficulty.Everybody has his own defination. But in general we have the common understanding that ,'living of one man with one woman for whole of the life' is a successful marriage. All of us wanted to live happy life,full of love, where, every man is truthful to his woman, for whole of the life, where every woman is truthful to her man,for whole of the life. But it is not easy because we can not over rule our basic existetial natue, hence conflicts appear, wich makes our life hell. Many a times situation becomes that nor we can live with our spouse nor we can drop. Neither we live nor we die, We contineously hang inbetween the both.We suffer for whole of the life. A great effort is needed to live a 'successful married life'. So we can be at rest & get tired by our life.. it is mostly but a very few couple really enjoy their life. What is that ? which makes the life enjoyble ? contd….
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