Jenny's Blog

Hello Progression,

 Thank you very much for your thoughtful idea, which really had me happy. I know exactly what and how to do when meeting such guys. I won't get into trouble with them at all.

Jenny

This is not about you. This is all about them. Some men need kind of emotional masturbation if they don't have love in their life. Due to lack of love, they are in need of smb who can make them feel like he is not alone on this planet. You say that you might have found this strange maybe because you were grown up in a conservative society, but this is not right. On the contrary, the ones who fall in love with you at first sight are grown up in conservative societies in which the expression of love is considered as a bad thing.

Or such cases are likely to occur if you are having contact with boys who are trying to discover what a woman is. Don't be surprised if such guys are at the age of 20s, coz if you are living in a backward society, you wouldn't have a real contact with the opposite sex till marriage.

I have a suggestion for you and all women facing the same situation that of yours. Just turn them down! If you are not into a kind of relationship, then don't confuse them. Simply say "I'm disturbed with your intentions. I don't need relationship or whatsoever. Bye!" Rather than doing this, if you choose to talk about how he feels like, this would be taken be him as an incubation period for starting the relationship. You gotta be firm. Coz men in such cases are not likely to take no as a no, unless you give that no in a decisive way rather than "oh dear blablablablablablabla... This is no good

I hope my opinions would be helpful. Cheers!

Hello Jane,

How are you doing today? Thanks again for your kind words. My friend sent me some pieces of message yesterday and when I turned on my cellphone this morning, I read them and felt very upset. I broke up my promise for the first time. But I didn't reply him. I think it is advisable to keep silent. Do you chat on Skpye? Hope we can meet there. my skpye ID is xiamenjeny.

Best regards

Jenny

I understand how you are feeling, don't worry it is normal. I also have my own problems and I'm hoping that I can fix them and go straight.

It's good that you have your familly around you they'll support you, same with your friends too.

Did your friend contact you again? I hope he isn't demanding so much.

Be careful always.

Jane.

Hello sakuralanguage and Kimisue,

I am glad that you two gave me advice. My friend didn't borrow so much money indeed, so I promised to give me without discussing with my family. After going home after work, I told them about that, and I didn't expect they were so strong aganist me. I didn't go to the bank and remitted. I feel guilty today

 Hope I get over very soon. thanks again.

I agree with sakuralanguate. If I were you, I don't lend my money to my friend.

But believing people itself is great thing.

Think carefully, and decide that you can trust him or not.

I think your friends are right it is difficult to lend money to a stranger. Eventhough you have talked to him for several times, I don't think it is still enough.

You have to know what to do, eventhough there are a lot of us here who would like to give you an advice,  you're still the last person to decide. Ask first, why do you have to lend him your money? are there any forms of collateral? what are the  terms of his payment?

If I were you, try to suggest to him, the other ways on how he can borrow money, like the bank, loaning company or to his own relatives.

Take care.

Jane