before marriage .....and after marriage

Boy: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.


Girl: Do you want me to leave?


Boy: NO! Don"t even think about it.


Girl: Do you love me?


Boy: Of course! Over and over!


Girl: Have you ever cheated on me?


Boy: NO! Why are you even asking?


Girl: Will you kiss me?


Boy: Every chance I get!


Girl: Will you hit me?


Boy: Are you crazy! I"m not that kind of person!


Girl: Can I trust you?


Boy: Yes.


Girl: Darling!



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JUST READ IT FROM BOTTOM TO TOP now….......... 

yeah you are right monatta

ı tinhk marriage will be good if wife and husband respect and love each other untill die. there is no respect, there is no happiness…

Dear Monatta,

Can you define 'joke' please,

I understand that 'joke' is the way to tell hardest truths in a light way,just mention that you are joking & say whatever you liked,which otherwise you would not have said & for the first time you have dared to accept the reality although in the form of a 'joke'.But you have expressed your deep feelings,you may deny now ,that what you was saying,was just a kidding.It makes no difference.

dear dev ,

joke is some times  funny exaggeration,

some times claver and funny explanation of the statment or things

some times funny description for truth as you said  .  

but to say marriage is generally  bad thing , this is wrong

only say this is a bad husband   ,  and this is a bad wife  . 

if I had a joke about a bad company  ,  foundation  or association    ,   would you say all the company , foundation or association   in the world are same  and   bad in general   . 

would you say particibution in  generally some thing useful . no need for it .  

and  now .

I answered you ,  where is your answer to my questions ?

AngleSmile,

marriage is not the creation  of God,it is the creation of religions.As to control an ox we put a rope through the nose of ox,it is just like that. It is to create guilt in us ,the controllers know that this is the field which is beyond of the controll of human & so they have utalised this dimenssion to control humanity,this is not in Islam alone but whole religious sutructre has done so,every religion has derived formulas of marriage with a little difference keeping the same spirit.

If we analise our self honestly we shall find that we go on imaginig someone else than our partner within our mind & we are told that when such situation arise you feel yourself a sinner, but this is what existence had created& to control the flow of existence is beyond imagination.

This is the reason that we don't live fulfilled,satisfactory happy life ,which makes us angery & we express our this anger in wars.

Because two persons can't live together for whole of the life so an cage has been designed to keep them locked inside,inspite of what they feel togetherness.Love is not considered at all,they have to live together wheather they love or hate or fight ,whatever the situation is ,makes no difference. 

really ,  your way of thinking is very new to me

fine dear  ,  enjoy your life and be happy .

but answer my question . now

Monatta,

I will reply to your 2nd question first,I will vote for the honest president ,who doesn't live dual life.If the cadidate has the courage to admit that he visits prostitutes daily,I will vote for him rather than the candidate who live in a family but escapes to other woman in ideas or imaginations.

I shall prefer what is hygenic,who he is doesn't matter.

Man can become father without marriage also,fatherness doesn't depend upon marriage.

Marriage demands loyalness,love knows no possessiveness, love knows sharing only, which is more more & more deep than loyalness.

No changing woman doesn't give pleasure,pleasure comes out of understanding between two partners,when there is egolessness, pleasure comes out of  sharing,it odesn't demand security,where marriage is for security only.

It doesn't lead to addiction,rather it gives awareness,it makes us more alert & responssible.

Yes it inceases chances of separation more & more  but relation develloped out of understanding is far deep than legal relation.

Everyone is free to live as he likes,but a married couple loses freedom ,they can't live as they like.Wife has his have to do's & husband has his have to do's.

Yes all of us have choiceless religion,which has been feeded in us as we feed some programme in computer.

& we use religion four times in our life..

birth,in paper records,marriage & death.We live rest of our life without religion,We kill animals to eat,We kill human,we exploit human,we lie in every sphere.

We hide our feelings,we live double lives.

We feel God or Allah sitting like a human & oprating our life from there.

Religion of words is different from the existential religion.Words & names came after humanity not before & words are just words, they can never replace existentence & everyone draws meanings of words as he likes.Words remain silent,they themselve has no power to express themselve.

& all beleivers just beleive,they don't explore the God living inside of us because they are never taught to search their own soul.

I beleive in love ,understanding,wheather it comes out of married life or some way else,if there is no understanding everything fails & we start living in hell & hope to enter heaven only after death.

Peace..we just say,we never realise, what is peace ,The whole religion comes in a single word 'peace',& never allow other to live with peace.We play with words only not live with spirit of words  we use.

Wish you to live peaceeeeeeeeeee

I'm a atheist but I totally agree with you monatta. We should be loyalty to eachother if we have a marriage and respect eachother. Thanks for give me confidence about my thought about marriage—monatta and AngelSmile :) By the way, my name is Xiaoxiao(潇潇) not Xioxio, it's from my Chinese name.

I have married for fourteen years. I has once questioned the love from my husband for me has deteriorated. No more surprise. No more flowers. No more sweet words. However in time I came to realize that the passion between us has transcended to a visceral and more lasting love and concerns for each other, with no intentions to please one another in order to get a higher score, capturing one's heart. We have two children and we love them so much that unavoidably we spend lots of time and pay considerable attention on them. We are pursuing our achievement in career now in our mid-life, leaving us little time for each other. Nevertheless, we respect each other and always stand besides one another whenever one needs support. I no longer dream for unrealistic fantasies that we can frozen in the past sweet memories. Otherwise the resentment  aroused from his failing me would definitely lead to endless grudges and tortures, and finally ended in divorce.

Yeah—- Some couples have the same situation just like  you. I don't know if I will suffer the same pain like you after marriage, I'm not sure… The fate is hard to guess.

Marriage is sacred because the originator of it is sacred.. that is, God. If you just read the Bible, reflect on it's teachings and applying it to your life…you will surely have a successful marriage.