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Sense and Sensibility was the first Jane Austen published. Though she initially called it Elinor and Marianne, Austen jettisoned both the title and the epistolary mode in which it was originally written, but kept the essential theme: the necessity of finding a workable middle ground between passion and reason. www.lwfree.cn The story revolves around the Dashwood sisters, Elinor and Marianne. Whereas the former is a sensible, rational creature, her younger sister is wildly romantic--a characteristic that offers Austen plenty of scope for both satire and compassion. Commenting on Edward Ferrars, a potential suitor for Elinor's hand, Marianne admits that while she "loves him tenderly," she finds him disappointing as a possible lover for her sister.
Soon however, Marianne meets a man who measures up to her ideal: Mr. Willoughby, a new neighbor. So swept away by passion is Marianne that her behavior begins to border on the scandalous. Then Willoughby abandons her; meanwhile, Elinor's growing affection for Edward suffers a check when he admits he is secretly engaged to a childhood sweetheart. How each of the sisters reacts to their romantic misfortunes, and the lessons they draw before coming finally to the requisite happy ending forms the heart of the novel. Though Marianne's disregard for social conventions and willingness to consider the world well-lost for love may appeal to modern readers, it is Elinor whom Austen herself most evidently admired; a truly happy marriage, she shows us, exists only where sense and sensibility meet and mix in proper measure.

    1 Separate emotionally from the family you grew up in; not to the point of estrangement, but enough so that your identity is separate from that of your parents and siblings.
   
    在感情上与你成长的家庭分开；不要到产生隔阂的地步，但要足以使你的身份独立于你的父母和兄弟姐妹。
   

    2 Build togetherness based on a shared intimacy and identity, while at the same time set boundaries to protect each partner's autonomy.
   
    在相互的亲昵和一致的基础上建立归属感，但同时也要设定一些界限来保障每一个成员的自主权。
   

    3 Establish a rich and pleasurable sexual relationship and protect it from the intrusions of the workplace and family obligations.
   
    建立一种丰富而又愉快的性关系，并保护其免受繁杂工作和家庭义务的干扰。
   

    4 For couples with children, embrace the daunting roles of parenthood and absorb the impact of a baby's entrance into the marriage. Learn to continue the work of protecting the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple.
   
    对于有孩子的夫妻，坦然地接受父母这样的严峻角色，消化掉因宝宝的出现而对婚姻生活造成的影响。夫妻双方还要学会继续保护自己和配偶的隐私。
   

    5 Confront and master the inevitable crises of life.
   
    共同面对和掌控生活中不可避免的危机。   

    6 Maintain the strength of the marital bond in the face of adversity. The marriage should be a safe haven in which partners are able to express their differences, anger and conflict.
   
    在面对逆境时保持婚姻关系的稳定。婚姻应当是一个安全的港湾，在这里夫妻之间可以表达他们的不同观点、忿怒和冲突。
   

    7 Use humor and laughter to keep things in perspective and to avoid boredom and isolation.
   
    通过幽默和笑声来对待事情，避免厌倦和孤立。
   

    8 Nurture and comfort each other, satisfying each partnerís needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support.
   
    扶持和安慰彼此，满足彼此依恋的需求，并提供持续性的鼓励和支持。
   

    9 Keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love, while facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by time.
   
    随着时间的流逝，即使面对理性的现实，也要保持年轻时候一颗浪漫的心和坠入爱河时美好的憧憬。

这里讲讲我自己在这两个多月里的学习英语的经验。
　　　　
　　　　首先学习英语要给自己一个安排，特别像我们这种上班族也好白领也好，没有多少时间来统筹安排的。我保证每天花2个小时学习英语（中午休息时间一个小时加晚上睡前一个小时），进步蛮快的。还有大家要给自己一个压力，有压力才有动力吗！我每天在我的台历上做标志，中午学习完成一个标志，晚上学习完成一个标志，这样一周下来看看是否每天都安排合适了。要不然惩罚自己多背50个单词。呵呵。还有就是英语学习也要讲究策略和好的兵刃，是话说得好，磨刀不误砍柴工啊。好的学习工具和好的学习策略不止事半功倍的效果哦。
　　　　
　　　　认真挑选一套教材，然后有系统的学习。好多网友没有个好的耐心和安排，看到什么好就学什么，今天学新概念，明天新东方口语，后天英语900句，我不推荐这样学习。每个课程都有他们自己的特色，我们要系统学习啊。好多人学习到最后就只会简单的句型，因为他们每种教材都只学习前面几课，而每本教材的前面几课都差不多，简单句型，所以他们的英语水平总是保持在简单水平。
　　　　
　　　　
　　　　学习安排：前半小时复习上一课程内容，然后合上书，用脑子想和用嘴描述出来（不一定要背诵出来，用英语描述更有利于以后英语口语能力）。后半小时进行听写，边听边写，同时边跟读。在单位休息时间就是看老友记，很多网上推荐的，我一般都是一集看几遍，常见的口语我会记下来，先是把整个字幕脚本调出来学习下，然后不看字幕来看，最后用英文字幕看一遍。
　　　　
　　　　网上有很多免费的英语资料，有些挺有帮助的，经常去一些学习英语的网站，针对性的练习对口语也挺有帮助的，比如我经常去的网站有
           http://boyet.blog.hexun.com/英语学习园地--英语发音教程下载，大学英语考试（CET）口试录像 ，阳光英语，新编英语口语教程，全国公共英语等级考试，大学英语四、六级考试

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http://www.tigtag.com/community/language/index.asp 滴答留学网站的英语天地--有关留学的一切，还有些外语培训类的东东
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　　　　http://www.englishtown.com/ 英语城，虽然是收费站点，但还是有许多免费的内容，来自世界各地的朋友全在这里学英文！最大特色是语音室！进去就可以用英文聊天了，注册就可以用（注册免费），还可以寻找英文笔友
　　　　http://www.fmprc.gov.cn/ 外交部网站。双语，有针对各国的外交政策及概况等，案头必备。
　　　　
　　　　其实按照上面的方法坚持不懈，有两个月，我想你的英语会进步很快的。普通的交流没有问题了