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The way want to live



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The way I want to live

Human history is not a history of increasing cleverness or increasing acuity of vision. It is just that we change our views. It is astonishing how many people, in this day and age, are still incredibly negative and cannot or will not change their views on certain matters.
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I think that no one will deny that we, Homo sapiens, are not always guided by reason. I tend to agree with Schopanoer, the German writer and philosopher who argues that human behaviour is governed not by the intellect but by the irrational impulses of the human will – which includes ambition, hate and sexual desires.

A central concern in my thought is that man is a being unique on this earth; he is endowed with an essential worth that exists nowhere else in the known world. Man is a being who may easily be degraded, but to degrade him is wrong. If he is debased, man is forced either to succumb or to defend himself and fight for his own human dignity.

In some of his Songs, Gustav Mahler says

Man languishes in great need
Man languishes in great pain


I agree, there are indeed great needs and great pain for us human beings on this earth; but I cannot help thinking that there is one kind of pain that we bring on ourselves and as long as there are
people who cannot or will not change their views on certain matters, there will always be murders and totally unnecessary degradation of certain people and, in consequence, rebelliousness and retaliation
with disastrous results, which is horrible,despicable and totally unacceptable. This is not a way to live! As it is, I feel bitterly,
bitterly disturbed and ill at ease.


I am referring to the unreasonable question of intolerance on the part of white people against black people and black people against white
people. To me, a perfectly ordinary person, I cannot see any sense in this kind of attitude. Even if one does not subscribe to any particular canon or credo in any religious faith, one cannot help – if any one cares to reflect – to realize that people with different coloured skin have always existed and will always exist just like there are different kinds of trees and flowers. To fell down a tree or pluck out a flower just because we do not like them is totally senseless because they do exist in abundance and however much we try we will never be able to destroy every single tree or flower we do not like. People, like trees and flowers, are part of nature and have always existed and will always exist. To kill one man or to bully and harass him until he commits suicide just because he is White or Asian or Black – how does this resolve one's problem? Furthermore, I simply
cannot see how, because someone is White, Asian or Black, affect me in any way and that I have to take those drastic actions against them.
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The fact of the matter is that our profession on this earth is to die and that is irrespective of whether one is White, Asian or Black. It is this mortal life and nothing else that we should consider and reflect upon.


We perfectly ordinary people cannot grasp what is going on in the mind nof some people who, though possess with an immensity of a complexity
of a brain, with which they can achieve almost anything they want, and yet say absolute barbaric inhumanities. I prefer to say that this is  outside my range of outstanding.


One cannot listen to Gustav Mahler's music without confronting the question of music as an expression of life. The "Adagietto" in his 5th Symphony is a case in point. And there are so many examples of
this in his music. Mahler's music takes one beyond what one is able to bear, because it is the relief and because it is the freedom.
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Music, like Mahler and Bach' music, help us to touch something that is eternal and greater than ourselves.

A few years ago, I witnessed something on television that brought tears to my eyes and it still does whenever I watched this particular
programme on my video. It was at a performance of the Vienna "New Years Day" concert and while the orchestra was playing a waltz – "Roses from the South", incidentally, one of my favourites – something happened that I have never seen before, something that touched me very, very deeply: The Vienna Choir boys distributed flowers to members of the audience – European, Chinese, Black people, any one. I thought, that is what I want to see, all the time, all over the world, no crime of any sort, just pure love for every human being.

This is the way I want to live!

France Chorley


Would you care to be my pen pal? If so, please nice and write to me on my email address, which is:


But of course, you don’t have to my pen pal or friend.  I am wise and intelligent enough to realize that we cannot like everyone in this world and not everyone can like us.


And if we cannot be friends, that is ok; we don’t have to write to each other or talk to each other, but we don’t have to hate each other.


If everyone would think in this very simple but logical way, I think we would have less wars and killings in our world.


Thank you.


France Chorley


Would you care to be my pen Pal?


If so, please be nice and write to me on my email address, which is:



Thank you

02:15 PM Feb 27 2007 |

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It seems that you are an intelligent and interesting person and I would like to be your pen pal. It's pity that there are so many people who are full of hatred to the others who are different. I would like to live in a peaceful world where I'll not worry about tomorrow .

12:56 PM Aug 16 2007 |



United Kingdom

Thank you kindly for your good words.  Yes, I think that most people would prefer to live in a peaceful world; but there are some I am afraid, who want to go on haing and killing.  I certainly would welcome you as my pen pal, since you seem to agree with my views.


My Email address is: 


I hope to hear from you soon.


Kind regards


01:09 PM Aug 16 2007 |



Very interesting and profund to some extent.I partly agree with you and I do think in nowdays there are few people to think about this matter which is vital in human society.If we want to be in a peaceful world we  human must think about ourselves and to love everyone around you 

03:09 AM Aug 17 2007 |



United Kingdom

Sir or Madam,


I cannot agree more with what you say here.  Yes, we have to think and learn to love everyone around us, but too many people just do not stop and think; and I think that too many people are concerned with the material things.

 I wonder if you would care to be my pen pal and write to me on my email address?


My email address is:


Thanks again kindly for your good words.



04:38 AM Aug 17 2007 |



United Kingdom

Thank you so much for your kind words  I am sorry to hae to tell you that I deleted your request for me to your friend on here by mitake; I clock on the wrrong button.  However, why can't we be friends and you write to me on my email address?  My email address is:  

This is something else I wrote:  



Why not give me a chance to be a friend?


What is Friendship?


I am neither a psychologist nor an intellectual, therefore I find it impossible to define friendship and put into words my understanding of it.


But what I do know, is that I will laugh with you when you are well and happy and I will cry together with you when you are sad and I will light a candle for you when you are ill or beset by seemingly impossible problems.


Friendship is based on understanding and trust; without these qualities, there cannot be true friendship.


I believe that true friendship is sorely and sadly lacking in our world today:  There too many crimes; too much hate, prejudice, envy and jealousy.


I don’t think we can change the world where Politicians and even the Church have failed to find any solution, but we can try and do our bit – create our own world, our own better world, the perfect world.


I Love classical music, operas and waltzes, which I just love to conduct.


I also like to talk about sex.  But please do not be alarmed, as I am not a pervert and I don’t do any harm to anyone.  I only wish to write letters.  I believe that sex is a natural phenomenon, a little like food and water to our bodies.  But rape, violence and sadism are not natural and I abhor those.


I am looking for pen pals with anyone, anyone that is, who believe in true friendship and who respect others for who they are and what they are, without prejudice and with people who are not judgemental.


  I live in England, but I was born in Mauritius.  I am a 50 year old man, and married.  My only quest for writing to pen pals, is to try and find a profound and transcendent meaning to friendship, which, I believe, is sorely and sadly lacking in our world today.


Would you care to be my pen pal, please?  If you care enough to care at all, my email address is:  


Of course, you don’t have to, if you don’t wish it.  I am not being negative here, only trying to be realistic – we cannot like everyone in this world and not everyone can like us.  It is a fact of our lives, and we just have to accept it, allowing people to get on with their own lives, without interfering with them, and respecting them for who they are and for what they are, without hate and without prejudice.


Thanking you beforehand, with my deepest respect.


France Chorley

My Email address is:


04:49 AM Aug 18 2007 |