Learn English with this 'arranged marriages' English lesson

I can’t understand arranged marriage. How could people arranged others’ marriage?!

arranged marriage is a form of business , better to say , buying and selling goods, while the goods are the man and woman. 

Arranged marriages are quite comon here in Algeria ,but i think this costom will be less common in the future,cause now every body wants to marry whom he/she wants,everybody is responsible for their choice.Personally,i don’t like this idea,i mean marriage is an important thing and i can’t risk to get involved in an arranged marriage ,i don’t mean that our parents may be wrong ..but they might not bring us the right choice,and in anyway arranged marriages aren’t by force.

Russia is a big country. Many different peoples live here. Every nation has it own customs. Russian had a custom arranged marriage at old time. But now our young people do their choice.There is no doubts I will give advice my daughter when she will be choose a man for life but this will be her own choice. And even I wouldn’t like her decision I will get it.

Recently I found out one my daughter’s friend is arranged marriage. She is 16. When she come of age she will get married with a guy whom she has never seen. He is a son of her parents’ friend. Young people didn’t meet. They only talked by phone and have photos each other. If she doesn’t get married with him this will be shame for all her family so her parents strictly follow her.

yup in india it is quite common but at the same time arranged marriages aint like forceful marriages i guess people have a very wrong perception about this. In this custom parents find a suitable guy or girl for their child in terms of parents background, job , business and etc before selecting a guy/girl and then they share the picutre with their child if he/she is ok then only they proceed further.

Here also it is becoming less common time by time and we have started finding our own partner but with parents constent only we proceed for marriage.

Now adays arranged marriage has turned into some suggestion from parents and the best is that  no one is forced for that and last decision is up to the both sides.

Arranged marriages are rare where I live. I believe they were prevalent in old times. I don’t like the idea of arranged marriages because all should be able to find love and get married freely. After all, it’s them but their family that are going to spend the rest of lives with the person.

Hey !

My personal opinion is that arranged marriages are really no better or worse than “love marriages,” as long as both participants are volunteers.

Arranged marriages are deeply ingrained in some cultures. I agree with S@W  , it has been the cause of many suffering, specially  to young girls, still in puberty , that were forced to marry a much  older man. But i believe that now young generations  in these cultures have more freedom to marry  the couple  they are in love to. 

Arranged marriages dominated in traditional chinese society.At that time,“Free Love” only exist in novel.The concept of Well matched marriage was deeply accepted by the whole society.Arranged marriaged killed true love and caused many tragedies.

What the difference between now and the past is,in the past,people put emphasis on result.When u reached marriageable age,you have to get married.But,now marriage tend to be formalize.People care about love and feelings.Although,We got high divorce rate result from we keep trying to find the right one plus the economic background.

I am living in a city of China. In my generation, I had never heard about the arranged marriage as people living in my city is open-minded and self-feeling oriented. However, my grandparents’ generation have this bizarre custom and my grandparents are exactly the typical arranged marriage example. And they had given 8 children in their years. I think there is no absolute perspective of arranged marriage. but the changes of people thinking, feeling and the improvement of social communication.

I’m totally disagree!

So, how could you live with someone, who dose not anything in commen with you.It’s a disaster!!!

Unfortunetly, a few peopole who are poor, force theire daughter to get mary with an aged and rich people.

its common longtime before in china, but not now. guys coming of age have too much more free to make the selection by themselves.

its common longtime before in china, but not now. guys coming of age have too much more free to make the selection by themselves.

its common longtime before in china, but not now. guys coming of age have too much more free to make the selection by themselves.

This sort of thing is a taboo over here… Generally speaking, people think exactly like Marni – they find it REALLY archaic!

My Indian friend has been involved in an arranged marriage three  times already.His parents were mistaken two times hope  they have made the right choice now.

Though,don’t think  it is the best way to bring happiness to the family .I firmly believe that happiness in marriage is a matter of luck.

It was norm for people to marry when they come of age until 1800s in Korea. In view of parents side, arranged marriages are quite reasonable because they are able to select well qulified candidates for children’s partner than children do. Before marriage, I have met lots of ladies who were working in various fields. At that time, I didn’t have any knowledges about “who is the best candidate as a life long partner?”.  My mother emphasized that you have to choose a lady who owned sound relious belief. If not, you will not overcome various hardships properly. As a result, I met current wife who owned sound relious belief since childhood under her parents care.  I believe that there is no coincidence in the world. Even though my parents guided to select the best lady, I cannot help but recommend arranged marriages if you have no ideas about your marriage. 

i am not in an arranged marriage at all and its not common in our cultural. I think we must marriage someone we love. Same with Marni, i think its bizarre to live together with someone who had arranged to married with me from birth.

I don’t want to criticize but I consider that it’s indispensable, for two people who suppose will  share the rest of their lives, to kow each other, to understand them and to fall in love.

I’m married and I remember how shocking it was to me seeing my loved girl for the very first time… so I had to work for her love and to demonstrate to her that I’d be her man.

Greetigs pen pals