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勇敢点

Learn the Imperative Form

Date: Mar 06 2012

Themes: Soap Opera

Grammar: Imperative Form

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The right thing to do is often the hardest thing to do. You can run away from the problem like a coward. Or you can man up and do what is required of you even though you don’t want to.

When you man up, you find the courage and strength to do what you have to do. Usually, when someone has to man up to do something, it means they are being immature and need to act like an adult.

Jason recently canceled his wedding, which caused his fiance Devan to break up with him. Now he’s acting strangely at the office. See if Marni can convince him to man up and get his girl back.

要做的正确事情往往是最难做的事情。你可以像懦夫一样逃避问题。你也可以勇敢地去做需要你做的事情,即使你不想去做。
当你变得勇敢的时候,你会拥有勇气和力量去做必须要做的事情。通常,当某些人必须要勇敢去做某件事的时候,这意味着他们还不成熟并且需要表现得像成人一样。
詹森最近取消了他的婚礼,这导致他的未婚妻德凡与其分手。现在,他在办公室里行为怪异。看玛尼能否说服他勇敢点并追回他的女友

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Jason

Jason

Marni

Marni

Jason:  Paperwork.

Marni:  Wow, you’re a full day early. Thanks, Jason. It seems weird to ask, maybe, but how are you doing?

Jason:  Fine.

Marni:  Yeah? Because I know that Devan’s taking this breakup pretty hard, and I just want you to know if you need to talk, I’m here for you.

Jason:  Man works. Man doesn’t talk.

Marni:  OK.

Jason:  Oh, who am I kidding, Marni? I’m a wreck. I screwed it up with Devan and I don’t know how to fix it. You have to help me.

Marni:  Jason, I think you just need to man up.

Jason:  That’s what I was trying to do.

Marni:  Well, manning up doesn’t mean you can’t be sensitive or show emotions. It just means you have to be responsible and take charge of your feelings. You need to act like a grownup.

Jason:  How do I do that?

Marni:  Huh. Well, you can start by getting off the floor.

Jason:  Alright.

Marni:  Then just show Devan how you feel about her.

Jason:  She won’t even talk to me. She’s so mad.

Marni:  That’s why you don’t just talk to her. You need to do a grand gesture.

Jason:  Like this?

Marni:  No. You need to show her that you’re going to be there for her and you’re not gonna run away when you get scared.

Jason:  But I’m so scared.

Marni:  Well, you just need to man up and own those emotions.

Jason:  You’re right.

Marni:  I’m gonna let you think about that one.

 

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Jason is acting strangely at work. He doesn’t want to talk at all. He seems emotionless.

Marni asks him if he is OK. She knows Devan was upset by her breakup with Jason. He says he is fine and walks off.

A moment later, Jason returns and tells Marni that he is a wreck. She says he just needs to man up and show Devan how he feels. She suggests a grand gesture. Jason says she’s right, but doesn’t appear ready stop acting immature just yet.

Have you ever had to man up and do something hard?

 

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snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

Please Lesya, nobody deserves to be treated unfairly or to be hated. When someone tells me “I hate you” , I reply ” don’t worry I’ve got enough love for the both of us”


:)

05:43 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

They are quite different sort of people in the comparison with your guardian, Snoopyboy Laughing

05:42 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Sometimes I regret about my unfair behavior towards my in-laws. I can be naughty to them. They are better than I am :(

05:41 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

I presume your marriage is well-rooted and strong, by feeling that way towards your in-laws not only did you manage to gain the heart of their son, you’ve also ingrained yourself in their family tree, very very deeply.


:)

05:36 PM Mar 06 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Julito, people usually sarcastiсally tell about their parents in law, especially about mothers in law. 


My parents in law are the only relatives I have got in Belarus. They are good people. I’m lucky that they are better than the parents in law in the sarcastic stories

05:28 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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 julito

julito

Argentina

Lesya, not to mention Mothers-in-law.Cry

05:14 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

Samson and Delilah


Adam and Eve


?


all women are femme fatales


:)

05:12 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Why the Trojan war has been started? because of woman!!! Men are powerless in front of women :(

05:11 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

I want to cry : )


Something physical about your tangos too

05:07 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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 julito

julito

Argentina

Snoopy, poor Jason. you have to listen to the lirics  in our tangos, they are sometimes very philosophicals . One of them  reads:  I have seen  braggarts  crying   because of a woman. You see how powerful women are . 

05:05 PM Mar 06 2012 |

snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

I’m surprised those words affected you at all, Lesya


:)

05:04 PM Mar 06 2012 |

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kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

I’m in the delight of these words :“the strong men cry with tears the strongest of us cry tearlessly, but the bottom line is that we all are vulnerable to women”  1000% of true within them

04:59 PM Mar 06 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Snoopyboy had suddenly matured today. He became a SnoopyMAN!!!! 


Men on the forum. What happend today? You have changed, really changed. 


Today I have opened the features of your character I did not see in you previously.


SnoopyMAN (boy) your today’s post is the “bestest” one you ever wrote on English, baby. 


I will save it and keep in the special folder.



04:57 PM Mar 06 2012 |

snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

I’m a spammer , but I spam people with love and fun times, with more words their minds can bear


: )

04:38 PM Mar 06 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

woooooooooooooooooooooooooooowwwwwwww, JO. It was powerful!!! 


Shookiba and ALL spammers have you heard the order, uh???

04:33 PM Mar 06 2012 |

snoopyboy

snoopyboy

Antarctica

Fragile woman you are my weakness, Sensitive Woman you know how to hurt me. Woman that I love you are elusive and very cunning, wild woman I’m going to tame you, for I’m a man. I’m a man woman, don’t you forget. Smile I’m snoopyMAN!


     Women like to scrutinize man for any signs of weakness. The level of humility and compliance is what they’re evaluating in a man. If you’re too chivalrous you might freak a woman out, if you’re too obedient, you’re not confident enough. “What do women want?” Jason asked crying himself a river.


   I think the mistake Jason made was to let that wedding preparation draw out for so long. He deserves to be heartbroken now, but he must realize that situation is taking much more toll on Devan than on him; he hurt her more than she hurt him, she’s a woman. Jason didn’t fulfill his duty as a man; a man in a relation must have a concrete plan and a vision. Jason thinks to please Devan he must tell her all the things she wants to hear, and just nod yes like a bobble-head to whatever suggestion she comes up with.  Like Marni I’d like to tell Jason to man up, and my decision has nothing to do with him crying or feeling hurt; I think he should. I know some men don’t want to admit, but women know how to touch our souls, the strong men cry with tears the strongest of us cry tearlessly, but the bottom line is that we all are vulnerable to women. By feeling apologetic Jason is proving that deep inside there’s a manly instinct waiting to be weaved, feeling sorry to me is no sign of weakness. Weakness to me is when you’re feel shy to express yourself honestly to the one you’ve hurt. Jason can suck all of his thumbs, and big toes all night long, but nothing would make him more of a sub-man than to not apologize and claim the love of his life back.


     Sorry is hard to say, making up is even more difficult to do, but taking a firm decision is the hardest of all, this is uncharted territory only the fittest of men roam it. Therefore, when you’re told to man up you are asked to make a drastic decision, not just a gesture. I don’t know of any flower, of any love song, any love letter, any words of apology that alone can convince Devan to accept him back. Jason must come up with a plan and lay it out in front of Devan, a future brighter and stronger, something better than what she had envisioned. A manly decision.


“Devan,  I’m here to discuss something with you please don’t remind me  how wrong I was; because I gave it ample thought and I’m aware that I should have handled the situation better, but before I can even apologize I’d like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for the wakeup call, thank you for giving me the opportunity to realize how much you cared for us, I’m a better person Devan and if you’d allow me I can prove it to you, in ways you didn’t foresee, today I come with a firm decision , I have a new plan for us. I made a fool of myself that day, but I’ll be spineless if I lose you. I certainly had matured drastically in the past days, but understand that I can never be the man you loved if you’re not the woman by my side. I need to be the man in your life Devan. I need you back right now and I’m sorry”


then you tell her about how you really feel, tell her you want to finish with your studies first or be financially more prepared before marrying her. But in the meantime give her something to hold on to , some firm ground to stand on, tell her why now is not the right time, she’ll wait as long as you give her reasons to.


Well Jason, a woman wants a man to be confident not arrogant or abusive, to be understanding not too docile, to be an influential leader but not a ruler, a pillar in her life. A man well grounded a decision maker in the face of adversity and doubt, a man with a plan. You can cry all you want but never let a woman you love tell you to man up, twice.


Claim your woman back before someone else hurts her more than you did Jason.

04:30 PM Mar 06 2012 |

 julito

julito

Argentina

Julissita,  It was generally  believed that women were  weaker than men ,(personally I laugh at this presumption). it´s not suppose that  a man    should show signs of weaknesses , maybe from this comes the expression ” man up”   .Actually , many women are the driving force behind  a courageuos man. 

03:09 PM Mar 06 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Seiyf, my grand-grand mother used to say: “Man’s appearance should be slightly better than the appearance of the monkey” 


She meant it is not important for man to be a good looking. He must be a man of decision. 


20 years later I have heard the same saying from other people ;) Up untill that day I was sure my grandmother contrived it by herselfLaughing

01:25 PM Mar 06 2012 |

FUN777

FUN777

Egypt

Of course, we all have been through moments like this, but i think it’s harder for the sensitive people than the others.

12:20 PM Mar 06 2012 |

 julito

julito

Argentina

Kudos to Marni,  why didn´t her pursue  an acting careear in Hollywood?


, she is superb   ,I like her gestures  ,they say more than words. 


Man up ,  I have learned that if  I don´t  myself  man up  ,nobody can do that for me .


A friend and I were climbing up Table Mountain  in Washington State  and  I totally  chickened out short of  reaching the peak. My friend told me man up !, you can do it  .



 

10:59 AM Mar 06 2012 |

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