Sex before marriage...

Society nowadays accept the premarital sex. But what are cause and effect doing it before marriage?...

i agree with what you say… be  friends?this is a clinical student in china

No. It's wrong. Its evil in the sight of God.

Waiting until marriage to have sex is the best way to enjoy life as God intended. There are good reasons behind God’s instruction which improves relationship building and also safeguards our physical, mental and spiritual health. Avoiding sex before marriage is possible by seeking out the strength of Christ.

This article has been written by John Kidson (Dip. Theology/Ministry, ACT; B. Counselling, UNE), Simon Rose and Rebecca Martin.

God has given us many things richly to enjoy and some guidelines as well. He has defined some areas as ‘no go zones’ as far as our behaviour is concerned. Essentially all God’s rules are for our benefit. Nowhere is this more clearly seen than in the way he has given one of his greatest gifts: human sexuality.

This is a ‘relational’ gift: ideally one woman and one man relate for life in all ways and not least at the sexual level. New humans are formed by a couple’s relating and their relationship sustains and enriches the whole of their lives. The Bible is quite clear about aspects that need to be part of such a relationship and just as clear about what should not be included. Commitment, faithfulness and the general potential for children rank as high positives. Aggression, lust and promiscuousness are all strong negatives.

Abstinence from sex until marriage is key for building an intimate and long lasting relationship. It draws two people closer together emotionally and is a special time when each person can spend time getting to know one another. The desire to avoid sex before marriage encourages self control which ultimately demonstrates trust to a partner. In turn this trust allows vulnerability towards each other producing a fruitful and intimate relationship.

A relationship with a regular pattern of worldly lust draws attention away from a true and deep relationship because lust is selfish. A truly satisfying relationship is expressed where one is mindful of the other in selfless thought and action. Lust is harmful because it seeks objects of desire to please oneself first and often without regard to the consequences. Promiscuity is part of lust, that degrades trust because it lacks self control and tends to view sex and people more casually. Sex is a sacred and beautiful part of marriage, and shouldn’t be seen as a casual act to satisfy superficial desires and insecurities.

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Kana, yea.. people choose sex before marriage, it’s their bussiness! U say it, ‘coz now U’re living in liberal country! But My opinion based on reality of my country that still have old tradition not permission for it! I’m not talking about premarital sex in another country, specially USA! ‘coz if I lived there, maybe I have opinion as yours!

i dont like sex before marriage …. at all .

Oh Kana, don’t make generalitation, just because your friends did it! Where did U live? Alice in the wonderland or Alice in the stranger planet? Maybe U found it in big city, such as Jakarta and Bali! Anyway, if what you said truth, what happens with my lovely country?

I think the matter here is the difference in beliefs and cultures.In Western it's normal,even they do that with a stranger they meet the first time,it's ok.While in Asia,it's a matter of moral,and couples do that while their relationships become inseparable.

it's not all what do you want, can get it.

hi every one

in my opinion , sex before marriage is not good idea .

 and in our culture it is not allowed for many benefits .

and as we know that many disaeses causes by sxual relationship before marriage.especially dangerous diseases such cancer and idz .

that is all i have to say

and good luck. 

Kana, I knew U dear, doesn’t need explanation. U mentioned big cities! I lived in Bandung 5 years, then I stay in Jakarta! Thanks God, I still have friends who have same opinion about that! We are not hipocrite people, we said it, ‘coz the fact, we’re not including who did it! Maybe there is a different life area between you & me. My point: even what you said it’s true, Generally still not permit

By the way, thanks! U pushed me to speak up here! Positively, I have to use english more&more! That’s what this forum are for!