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How to Leave Your Lover

How to Leave Your Lover

Date: Sep 02 2005

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He chews with his mouth open. She cares more about her hair than she does about you. He never calls. She calls too often. Argh, you can’t stand it anymore. It’s time to give him (or her) the boot.

But how do you do it? Sit down and talk? Send an email? Do it over the phone? You could just disappear – no more calls, no more emails – and leave him to figure out for himself that the relationship is kaput.

In his song 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover, Paul Simon suggests that whatever you have to do to give him the axe, do it…and get yourself free.

Listen in as Derek shares his advice with Dave on how to break up with somebody.

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Dave

Dave

Derek

Derek

Dave:  Derek, have you ever broken up with somebody?

Derek:  Ah, yeah, I have actually. A few times.

Dave:  Yeah, how did you do it?

Derek:  Um, I think each time it was a little bit different. Um, and, you know, I think that basically there is no best way to break up with somebody. Um, maybe it’s just…come out with it and say, you know, ‘it’s not going to work.’

Dave:  Well, that’s a very polite way to do it.

Derek:  Yeah. I suppose, you know, you never…never should do it in the heat of an argument or anything like that, you know. Just think about things first, and then, when you have a rational mind, you could say it.

 

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Discussion

Giving someone the boot (or the axe) isn’t always easy. Your soon-to-be ex will probably cry, beg for another chance or become angry. If the break up is mutual, it might be a tad easier. Relationship experts offer the following advice for breaking it off with someone:

1. Be sensitive and calm.
2. Do not blame or insult him/her.
3. Listen to what he/she has to say, but do not apologize or change your decision.
4. Be honest about your feelings.

Of course, if you just want to end it without any hassles, there’s always the Dear John (if you’re female) or Dear Jane (if you’re male) letter. It may be a cold way to do the deed, but it’s definitely easier.

 

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wehel Amir

wehel Amir

Somalia

I beliave the realy love never ended.May be one of lovers isn’t good.so everything is posibale.

09:56 PM Oct 13 2010 |

wehel Amir

wehel Amir

Somalia

it’s common so realy love never end,don’t leave.

06:54 PM Aug 15 2010 |

nuna2300

nuna2300

Thailand

Have you ever leave your lover?? How can you do it? Let's discuss the best way>>

04:33 AM May 10 2010 |

miffoo

miffoo

Slovakia

sometimes it’s hard to give the boot

12:23 PM Jan 15 2009 |

cathyz

cathyz

China

Say something that he/she can understand.

07:54 AM Sep 30 2007 |

ufufufk

ufufufk

Egypt

im from egypt

02:24 PM Sep 29 2007 |

minni

India

hi…

i am from India…. 

07:13 AM Sep 26 2007 |

minni

India

very gud openion…...

07:12 AM Sep 26 2007 |

ufufufk

ufufufk

Egypt

im good man live in egypt any want add me want know new friends at the woreds

 

not like bad guy or girl and hate more any gay

03:51 PM Sep 20 2007 |

shanker

shanker

India

Never leave your lover & if you want to leave means he/she is not lover

11:06 AM Sep 20 2007 |

moonmooncat

Germany

oh, i think, the first thing to do is to have a decisive attitude with him. Don't let emotion influences your decision. Maybe you will poor your friend and give him another chance to reconnect your relationship. But i think i can't do anything better if you endure a lover you don't love. So, to be calm, decisive and obvious is good for two.

04:32 AM Sep 17 2007 |

racen.manok

Canada

well .  ol  ican say is that its really hard to kaput reltionship w/ someone u know wud not let u go . .

06:37 AM Aug 22 2007 |

renwda

renwda

Canada

It's useful. I am gonna use the silent way

12:06 PM Aug 08 2007 |

annietung

annietung

China

tell him the reason he could accept,and maybe we two could be friends in the future.

04:37 AM May 30 2007 |

Josh K

Josh K

Guatemala

that happen always

04:13 PM May 12 2007 |

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