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Being Shy
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Being Shy
害羞

Learn Gerunds and Infinitives

Date: Apr 30 2012

Themes: Friend

Grammar: Gerunds vs. Infinitives

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Shyness can be misleading. A shy person might seem unfriendly. In class, teachers sometimes think that the shy students have nothing to say. But even though outgoing people spend more time in the spotlight than shy people, that doesn’t mean shy people aren’t just as interesting and fun. It might just take some time before a shy person can feel comfortable and come out of her shell.

Jason is not shy at all. Amy used to be shy, but she has learned to be more outgoing. Hear them discuss the pros and cons of being shy.

害羞容易让人误解。似乎害羞的人不那么友好。在课堂上,老师有时会认为害羞的学生无话可讲。相比害羞的人,即便外向的人会得到更多人的注意,但这不表示害羞的人缺乏风趣幽默。或许,害羞的人只是需要多花点儿时间才能感觉能够与人自在交往,并且不再羞怯。
詹森一点儿都不害羞。艾米过去害羞,但她已经学会如何更加外向。听听他们讨论害羞的优缺点。

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Amy

Amy

Jason

Jason

Amy:  Are you shy at all, Jason?

Jason:  No.

Amy:  So you’ll just go up to anyone and start a conversation.

Jason:  Pretty much. I know I’m not shy, because I’ve been trying to give people advice about things at times, and I’ll say, “Why don’t you just call that person up and say this?” And they’ll go, “Oh my gosh, I could never do that.”

Amy:  Right.

Jason:  Are you shy?

Amy:  I don’t think I’m shy anymore, most of the time, but when I was a kid, I was really shy. And I kind of had to force myself to get over my shyness.

Jason:  Wow. How did you do that?

Amy:  I think just by doing the kinds of things that you’re talking about, like just forcing myself to do something that would maybe make me uncomfortable, and then just seeing, like, it’s not that bad. Like, you get through it, and it’s fine, and you can kind of fake it ‘til you make it, you know?

Jason:  Yeah, that makes sense. I mean, shyness for the most part is just fear, I guess, and it’s not really fear of anything worth being afraid of, so if you can just force yourself to do it anyway…

Amy:  I think so, and I think when you see what you can kind of gain sometimes by not being shy, then that can kind of help you overcome it if you want to. But there are advantages to being shy too, and to holding back a little bit and waiting until you kind of get to know somebody better before really coming all the way out of your shell.

Jason:  That’s true, especially in our age of social networking and everyone sort of being a performer and a brand. Someone who’s shy can come off as more genuine.

Amy:  Yeah.

 

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Jason says he is not shy at all. He isn’t afraid to do things or say things that other people are too shy to do. Sometimes he even surprises people by how outgoing he is.

Unlike Jason, Amy was shy when she was younger. She had to force herself to be more outgoing by doing things that made her uncomfortable, like talking to people she didn’t know.

Even though she is happy that she isn’t as shy anymore, Amy thinks that there are advantages to being shy. Jason agrees that shy people sometimes seem more genuine and serious.

Are you shy? Do you know any shy people? Do you think it is better to be shy or outgoing?

 

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AUL

AUL

Azerbaijan

i’m shy but not so much


generally i dont like big occasions because i feel such as everybody looks at me i know it’s not true but i feel shy


among my riends i’m not shy i feel absolutely relaxed but amond people who oder than me i can say i even dont speak for some time then i began feel a little relaxed

05:03 AM May 02 2012 |

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CatcheR

CatcheR

Iceland

I’m quite shy person,and actually I love to that, fake it till I finally make it. Being shy can gain a lot benefit. People always feel curious about you and it can be misleading though, but shy people can be fun, just take a little time to come out of her /his shell. Yup I’m talking about myself anyway, I might not been shy on the internet, but I do in real life. That’s why I don’t really going well with people so quickly. My friends are few . lol

02:51 AM May 02 2012 |

 julito

julito

Argentina

Cheermanal.   As she is your friend I suggest that you  invite her to have a couple of coffees and in between have a serious talk with  her . Try to open up her eyes ,she is intelligent  and will appreciate  your piece of advise . One thing is to be shy and another a   weak person  who  permits  that  her co-workers take the credit  for something  that belong to her .   Cry 

12:00 AM May 02 2012 |

cheer manal

Morocco

Rockyy1 none of us could ever deny that shy people could be successful, genious, legends…what i really mean is very simpler than that.i only want to mention that severe shyness can seriously impact your chance of job succes, and also affect your performance.i will not go so far but mentioning my friend´s experience she lately went through. she is a person with high qualities,she is kind of competent, skilled,hardworking,and…ect. but it seems these qualities are not quite enough while in a career. her co-workers took advantage of her. sometimes they steal her new ideas and plans and represent it as if it were theirs,and other similar stuff. as she is shy person she just accepted it and never complained but inwardly she was never satisfied. i don´t know what should i name this behaviour whether it is really shyness or naivety..or something else do you have any idea?

09:59 PM May 01 2012 |

Ismail1986

Ismail1986

Saudi Arabia

Shyness is a part of natural human feelings, if you just learn how to control it you’ll have a great personality in the same time you’ll be more respectable. you can be open and shy in the same time no conflict with that, only if you want to say I’m ” open with things that you should be shy about ”.

07:00 PM May 01 2012 |

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Rockyy01

Rockyy01

Pakistan

Cheer Manal…
I’m sorry I don’t want to prove you wrong…
but ‘Two people can’t learn… arrogant & shy…’
It’s not like a saying… it’s more like a joke…

I don’t know about arrogants…
But Michael Jackson… was the most shy man I ever read about…
But just write his name & have a look at his achievements…
He’s the most popular artist in the history of Music…
He’s awarded as the greatest entertainer of all time…

10:21 AM May 01 2012 |

Sinurita

Palestinian Territory, Occupied

I liked “fake it ‘til you make it” ^_*

05:43 AM May 01 2012 |

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alfanromadon

Indonesia

good article gives me inspiration … :)

02:30 AM May 01 2012 |

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ola33

ola33

Japan

“two people will never learn; the arrogant and the shy”.


Hugh Grant an actor, shy by nature, but what a career he made. Well, the days of the past are gone when shyness was a virture and utterly shameless person was a sort of a monster with no self -respect to himself or to others and capable of every vile behaviour . Now, it’s getting funny to me. It’s conagious, Ryo, eh, let’s be nice to shy people. And thank you Aristotle ...


Aristotle thought it was good that young people were prone to this sort of bashfulness, because their lives were guided by emotion and appetite, and so it was only a quick flush of shame that prevented their being often rather disgusting. Apart from that, the guides to behaviour of our ancestors did not pay much attention to shyness at all, except to dismiss it as unmanly.”

12:17 AM May 01 2012 |

Yaby_ok

Yaby_ok

Mexico

I’m shy =(

12:04 AM May 01 2012 |

ibtisaam

Somalia

yes y am shy when i doing something wrong




10:30 PM Apr 30 2012 |

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cheer manal

Morocco

to be shy is fairly good but to be an introverted person is an other story. i think i am in between as most of you :). being shy is never a defect or a trait one should be shy of. it´s something instinctive i think, there are people who are shy by nature as there are people who become outgoing when growing up. generally speaking, shyness can negatively impact an important part of our life. for instance in the workplace or in the field of education. there is a famous arabic saying : two people will never learn; the arrogant and the shy”.

09:30 PM Apr 30 2012 |

Rockyy01

Rockyy01

Pakistan

Yeah… I’m normally a very ‘Shy Guy…’
But when it’s about helping people or to make them happy then I’m not shy at all…

Hmmm… What’s better…!!!
Well… I guess it doesn’t matter if you’re shy or outgoing…
But it’s better to have a limit of being shy or outgoing…
Just keeping the balance is better according to me…
neither crazily outgoing… nor shy out of limit…

08:20 PM Apr 30 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Such lessons like “hit it off” and “talking to  strangers” prove my words once again http://www.englishbaby.com/lessons/5485/real_life/talking_to_strangers


These lessons have got some common issues, I suppose. ;)

06:54 PM Apr 30 2012 |

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 julito

julito

Argentina

Dear Lesya, a perfect mixture of both …Wink 

06:53 PM Apr 30 2012 |

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kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

” I’m not shy and I have never been shy since the day I was born :D. I would not say that I’m quite outgoing person as well. There is approximately 60% of outgoing personality and 40% of closed person within me. :)” 5 minutes ago · Like

06:51 PM Apr 30 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Helllllllllllllllllooooooo, dear Julito :) 


I have just commented to this lesson on Facebook :D


Wait I will copy and post here :)

06:49 PM Apr 30 2012 |

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goodmahsa

goodmahsa

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

yeah pretty.your X-ray machine is brilliantWink

06:44 PM Apr 30 2012 |

 julito

julito

Argentina

 LESYA, hello,  we need to hear from you. are you shy ?

06:38 PM Apr 30 2012 |

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 julito

julito

Argentina

Mahsa, i am trying to x-ray your mind. you are preposterous, funny , witty, caught your friends off-guard  .I like it , if this is the case.Smile

06:31 PM Apr 30 2012 |

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