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Julito, yes.

OLA, agree,even though how hard sometimes might be ,from a psychological  and medical point of view  if we forgive  we are doing a favor to ourselves , otherwise we might ending up poisoning our body and mind.  

Isn’t it amazing, Julito.

Another thing to add, when you forgive you do very good for yourself. It’s a heavy burden to carry the grudge. It’s eating you, occupies you mind, it totures you, it makes you billous and spiteful hating the whole world. It’s better to let it go, to forgive, to embrace and love and kiss and have a whole pile of happiness!

OLA, touching story. I could see tears  welling up  in the  ex.con  young man.

I’m a believer in second chance for many reasons we aren’t angles  , we should forgave each others , as the same time nobody likes misbehave with others .

sometimes our lives make us be in a bad mood and a bad image , we are looking for being very respectable people with each others , for me I Always give a second chance when someone hurts me or offend me , specially If he or she was a very dear of me .

the most Important thing is the ethics, we should protect it from any bad thing , without ethics our lives will be very silly thing .

For me I’m looking to be a good man with all people , we must try to be polite people .

Moriza, call me stubborn – though, I believe what I said has nothing to do with stubbornness – confident or proud but I do not believe I would really put up with it and say “okay, darling, you cheated on me many times and beat me up really bad but let’s forget it and move on.” even if I were married for 50 years. Then what is the point of starting a relationship or even marrying in the first place? I bet I would live better alone. 

What I am trying to say is it seems like a real silliness to give a second chance in some cases which eventually shatter feelings, emotions and destroy the personality of the people involved in the situation but I do not mean triffle issues such as spilling cherry juice on my favorite dress which you borrowed for your friend’s wedding ceremony or breaking my phone by accident, etc. I mean big issues that directly affect the course of interpersonal relationships in a bad way.

I believe in second chances  proved that  the person is sincerily  sorry for  screwing up  ,    it might be a pottery (Lily`s  case) ,  a relationship or whatever  mistakes  we made  or are made to us.  There are special cases, for instance: domestic violence , many married women in my country  are beating up by their husbands,  even a report to the police  won´t stop  the abuser  from  repeating  this pattern of domestic violence. Should the abuser  be forgiven ?  , I don´t think so , when they are  angry   are like beasts and will do it over  and over again.   

Chinese people used to say: ” fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me”

I do believe in second chances, and I try to give them as much as possible. Most of the times, I don’t hold grudges, I try as hard as I can not to. It makes me feel that I’m evil if I held a grudge or didn’t give someone a second chance. I always try to be forgivable, because you know, everyone make mistakes, it’s in human nature. However, some people just don’t deserve a second chance, and you can figure it out yourself, you know, if you know the person very well and you know that they don’t learn from their mistakes and would keep doing them over and over again then they don’t deserve a second chance.

 We are most like beasts when we kill.

We are most like men when we judge.

We are most like God when we forgive.

Not only the second chance but many of them, as many as possible. Please, be generous on that.

The Signal”
-Author unknown

  The young man sat alone on the bus and most of the time stared out the window. He was in his mid-twenties, nice looking with a kind face. His dark blue shirt matched the color of his eyes. His hair was short and neat. Occasionally he would look away from the window and the anxiety on his young face touched the heart of the grandmotherly woman sitting across the aisle. The bus was just approaching the outskirts of a small town when she was so drawn to the young man that she scooted across the aisle and asked permission to sit next to him.

After a few moments of small talk about the warm spring weather, he blurted out, “I’ve been in prison for two years. I just got out this morning and I’m going home.” His words tumbled out as he told her he was raised in a poor but proud family and how his crime had brought his family shame and heartbreak. In the whole two years he had not heard from them. He knew they were too poor to travel the distance to where he had been in prison and his parents probably felt too uneducated to write. he had stopped writing them when no answers came.

Three weeks before being released, he desperately wrote one more letter to his family. He told them how sorry he was for disappointing them and asked for their forgiveness.

He went on to explain about being released from prison and that he would take the bus to his hometown, the one that goes right by the front yard of the house where he grew up and where his parents still lived. In his letter, he said he would understand if they wouldn’t forgive him.

He wanted to make it easy for them and so asked them to give him a signal that he could see from the bus. If they had forgiven him and wanted him to come back home, they could tie a white ribbon on the old apple tree that stood in the front yard. If the signal wasn’t there, he would stay on the bus, leave town and be out of their lives forever.

As the bus neared his street, the young man became more and more anxious to the point he was afraid to look out the window because he was so sure there would be no ribbon.

After listening to his story, the woman asked simply, “Would it help if we traded seats and I’ll sit near to the window and look for you?” The bus traveled a few more blocks and then she saw the tree. She gently touched the young man’s shoulder and choking back tears said, “Look! Oh look! The whole tree is covered with white ribbons.”

Generally,I believe in second chances depending on the mistake is serious or not. For example, cheating is unforgivable for me.Because every relationship is based on the loyalty. If my good friend lie to me, how can i trust him/her again? i’m afriad i couldn’t share any secret with him/her again. By contrast, breaking potteries implied in the dialog is a forgivable mistake, since the friend didn’t screw it up intentionally.

Kindness and forgivness will save the world.As for me,everyone deserves for a second chance,if ,of course,that person really needs it and wants to change.It,s like we help somebody to straight up,to get him know that the world isn,t without good people,to let him realize that somebody believes in his strength,to show him that not evrth is lost…

Mess,in my youth I was with similar rules,stubborn,proud and confident.Looking at others not very good examples,I thought :”how can they allow all it? I,d go ,or leave,or escape being at their places…”

But life has given me a lesson and changed my priorities.It was hard to overstep over myself,but I hope it was worth of it.And I,ve learned that “never say never…”

There is a golden rule which I try to follow more or less”if we want to change smbd or smth,we shold start from ourselves.”

People who dont give second chances are VERY PROUD persons that fear their EGO would be weaken if they show mercy….(are you reading MESS from Turkey?)

Second chance can be given to people in some situations but I personally believe in some situations there is no going back, and no right for a second chance. I have a few things for which I have no tolerance.

First, cheating. I can never and ever forgive my partner if he ever cheats on me, let it be my boy friend or my husband, or one of my close friends.

Secondly, asking me to change. I am me. I have my personal rules, personality, way of speaking, way of dressing, etc, and I am sure I am a good person. I am not flawless, though. I am open to any sort of criticism but no one possesses the right to ask me to change like I have no right to ask anyone (speaking of my partner or husband) to change, too.

Thirdly, violence or beating me up. This one makes alarm bells start to ring. Even raising the hand to hit me – but not hitting actually – would even screw everything, and I would leave everything behind and walk away for good. That person would be dead for me. Because if a person ever tends to do that, then he/she actually has the potential, and it will come out soon. But it is not only men who beat women up. It is rarely seen but some women beat men up, too.

This list may grow longer and longer. These are only three of my deserve-no-second-chance points. 

Apart from that, if my friend broke my favorite pottery, I would not see it as something related to being forgiven. It is accidentally done – if your friend is not your enemy in disguise indeed – so I would call it an accident and even comfort my friend about the situation.

And finally, I never hold a grudge against anything or anybody. I just make sure that my road never crosses with the unwanted incident or the person who did wrong to me before. That is a golden tip to live a life away from hatred and sadness. :)

On the one hand everyone deserve a second chance as long as the red line isn’t exceeded. On the otherhand we shouldnt be hold agrudge, becouse this is not healthy for our heart. If we hold a grudge we pay the invoice of mistakes which are commited by others and we can’t control it in advance.

for the most part, i let things go. there are a couple things that, b/c the other person keeps bringing it up and doing things to hurt me that it gets brought up..then of course it’s harder to let go…but essentially yes, i let it all go that’s what God wants me to do.

I truly believe in second chance, it’s always good  to forgive a friend. Nobody is perfect in this world. 

I never hold a grudge. Because I understand those everybody all are make mistake and humankind have good and bad not who just only good and not who just only bad.They are both good and bad inside which behiding.