Learn English: meaning of 'have one's heart set on"

I have had my heart set on many things, but one stayed and one went away.

I love the way you are teaching

It’s so important not to wallow on self pity and stay busy to avoid unhappiness. Poor Brian, I hope he can move on.

Hi, julito,

I would like to visit Argentina some day… I have heard a lot about your famous steaks and wines. Pizza? Your culture is a real mix!

dear tarita,

  come to Argentina , say good bye to the penguins and polar bears , you will have a first hand experience of  our  people,  regarded by many  as social, pedantic ,soccer fanatics ,if you aren`t vegan you could taste our famous steaks ,wines and pizza.  by the way , i am not much of a chatter except when  i am among you guys. I really enjoy our conversation and how nice all of you are.  

@julito,

So there live more sociable people in Argentina, I suppose. :)

@ Tarita,   i know that but we speak spanish , that rule doesn`t apply for us.   jejejejeje

@julito,

I thought it’s the rule in English-speaking countries to answer “fine, thanks” etc. and not to draw a picture of problems )

@ Tarita,      it is a proven method , 

it is for this that I rarely  complain . If somebody ask me how am i doing and i  said that i have a tooth ache , ohh  really? , you have to listen to my story . Then during 45 minutes i will have patiently  hear  all his ailments .The tooth ache was irrelevant to him. I am a lot more wise now , When i am asked how i am doing , y say… doing great , doing great.

@julito,

By the way, there is a tried-and-true method. If somebody tells you all their problems and you want to get rid of that person at last, just start complaining to that person about everything you don’t like and the plaintiff will run away from you :D

@tarita,
I agree with your statement , Why should I publicly wallow in self.pity, who cares anyway , people have already their own problems to deal with. But it is different when we trust a friend or family, then I might be willing to open up my heart.

It’s not just children who wallow in self-pity. Adults do it very often but we like pretending to be prosperous :). People may feel terrible, they are not always successful in love, in their work etc. But adults differ from children in being too proud to show their feelings.

@julito, that’s it! :D

@julito, hi

The best explaniation indeed ;)

@Scienceboy , hello, 

I was  also pondering why Brian has chosen Human Anatomy among so diverse  courses that are on the table for students. The only explanation that came up to my mind is that Brian is interested in knowing how   the human heart  works and to apply that knowledge to mend his broken heart. 

Since seven moths ago till now, im in this situation have one’s heart set on, and i wallow in self-pity, im trying to find a solution to stop thinking and change but always i find myself in the same case, unfortunately.

I agree with Shoba and Ditti, Brian is doing what seems the right thing to do. 

Human Anatomy? It was my nightmare in college. Why would a science teacher had to memorize all the arteries and veins in the human body? Now I forgot all of them.

yeah! i had my heart set on something that didn’t work and it was really disappointing for me! and i’m no doing something that i frankly don’t want to do it instead of what had a desire for,it’s life!

Brian’s feeling ? we all at one point of our life have gone through it. In my case I wallow in Self-pity but it doesn’t last much. After all, the ” function must continue”

Brian’s feelings are quite understandable. It could be pretty frustrating when you have your heart set on something and it doesn’t work out for some reason. 

But like Ditti, I also feel that Brian is heading in the right direction when he tries to keep his mind off Lily by switching to his other interests.

Very good, Brian! Way to go! Let’s not forget that there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

As for me, I always have my heart set on the wrong things and they never work out for me. But I don’t wallow in self-pity, I just take it easy and move on.