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Date: Jan 01 2009


1. Quote - Listen to the quote and guess what the slang means.

“A lot of people think that I just became this wallflower, this woman who doesn’t have any control of her life. And that’s pretty wrong.”

- Katie Holmes, on how people think she’s changed since she married Tom Cruise. (US Weekly)


1. Definition - Study the definition.

shy person who doesn’t like to participate in social activities

2. Use - Learn how the slang is used.

Women get compared to flowers all the time, especially by guys who want to date them. We say a girl is as pretty as a flower, as sweet as a flower, or smells as good as a flower. But when you call a girl a wallflower, it isn’t always a compliment.

Wallflower is the name of a plant with delicate orange or yellow blossoms that often grows along old walls or cliffs. It’s also what we call a quiet, antisocial person who acts shy at parties. Katie Holmes says that the public thinks she’s turned into a wallflower because of her relationship with Tom Cruise. People say that he doesn’t let her go out very much or have many friends, but Katie says that isn’t true.

When you’re at a party, do you like to be out on the the dance floor where all the action is? Or would you rather stay on the edge of the party, next to a wall, where you might not talk to anybody all night? If the second option sounds more like you, then you might be a wallflower. (The opposite is sometimes called the life of the party.)

Being a wallflower isn’t all bad. Girls who get called wallflowers are often pretty and mysterious. They might seem really quiet at first, but once you notice them and talk to them, they’re actually really interesting. The singer Bob Dylan even has a love song called “Wallflower.” He sings, “Wallflower, wallflower, won’t you dance with me? I’m fallin’ in love with you.”

So maybe wallflowers are actually really cool. But you’ll have to talk to them first, because they aren’t going to talk to you.


1. Examples - Hear some example sentences.

“At first I didn’t notice Jane because she’s really a wallflower. But the minute I met her, I was in love!
I tried not to be a wallflower at the party because I wanted to meet people, but it’s so hard for me to talk to people I don’t know. “


1. Winners - See who guessed the slang definition correctly.

VOLTS It is used to describe someone who stays close to a wall and out of the main area of social activity.
by VOLTSSuper Member!
tinyry meaning she isolated her self from others she doesn't have social activities any more.
by tinyry
Eydo girl not invited to dance or take part in social activity
by Eydo
najafi Someone at a party,dance etc. who is not asked to dance or take part in activities.
by najafi
REEF I think she is shy and never someone take her to dance.
evelyn_BR like a souvenir.. who don't think, don't speak.. an object of decoration.
by evelyn_BR
archilles person(espcially a woman)who has no dancing partners at a dance and has to sit or stand around while others dance
by archilles
alfred_xu One who does not participate in the activity at a social event because of shyness or unpopularity.
by alfred_xu
Dani J. a shy or unpopular individuals who do not socialize or participate in activities at social events
by Dani J.
pocwarqa shy person
by pocwarqa
ユウタ☆ A person who isn't noticed, who stands on the side of things and gets pushed around. It's just like a flower pattern on a wall, hence the word wallflower.
by ユウタ☆
lukeyy A wallflower is a girl to whom is not be paid attention.
by lukeyy
duyi One who does not take part in social events due to shyness or unpopularity
by duyi
nil_fm wallflower means a lady near the wall at party who was asked for dance.....
by nil_fm
A wall flower is usually an attractive woman, who does not participate in social activities. She would lead a more secluded life. The term is very often used in nightclubs. Some men really like women who are shy and stay by themselves, rather than hit the dance floor and get wild.
by Natashechka

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Saudi Arabia

I'm kinda wallflower 

07:21 PM Aug 05 2010 |




When I was a kind was very shy…Today certainty not! I have any prejudice of “wallflower” girls,this sharpening my curiosity hehe ;)

07:04 PM Jan 06 2009 |

Otonashi Saya

Saudi Arabia

I see , I must be a wallflower .. what a nice lesson , I liked it ..

09:06 PM Jan 05 2009 |


Saudi Arabia

i’ve never heard of it before .. thanks

07:43 PM Jan 05 2009 |




Everyone is very shy as a child

02:36 AM Jan 04 2009 |



what ever wallflower is,it is finally a flower…

05:33 PM Jan 03 2009 |



I’m Proud of myself, cause I’m a wallflower!

02:24 PM Jan 03 2009 |




I like that sense of those flowers… amd I like Katie!

11:02 PM Jan 02 2009 |




good lesson :)

09:11 AM Jan 02 2009 |




Great lesson!

05:16 AM Jan 02 2009 |



interesting. I’m very shy, so am I a wallflower?

07:12 PM Jan 01 2009 |


United States

good lesson thanks :)

05:07 PM Jan 01 2009 |




interesting ^_*

04:48 PM Jan 01 2009 |




Doesn’t the term “wallflower” only apply to gals? Cuz i think i might jsut be one of this demure individuals, so how is it?

02:54 PM Jan 01 2009 |


Iran, Islamic Republic Of

Being a wallflower is dependent to your situation . Might everybody experienced it , for example when you are in a stranger party .

11:58 AM Jan 01 2009 |




Being a wallflower isn’t bad at all. They are just a kind of people who are mysterious. I prefer to be a wallfower and instead of a person who likes to show off.

11:25 AM Jan 01 2009 |




Define as Wallflower is so cool! I love that is… “wallflower”...=_=

07:57 AM Jan 01 2009 |




Interesting Lesson :)

07:44 AM Jan 01 2009 |




This definition of “wallflower” makes me feel better of meself.I realize being this kind of person can also be good,so I’ll continue my acting as wallflower)

06:59 AM Jan 01 2009 |




i think wallflower s are refered to the ladies who aren’t invited to dance floor by gentlemen for dancing!!!

05:07 AM Jan 01 2009 |

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